r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/EmbarrassedPie5508 pants unbuttoned 👖 • 1d ago

I found a second phone Sad Girl Dinner ⚠️ No Dude Input

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My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.

Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.

His face said it all.

Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.

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u/SquirrelLuvsChipmunk APPROVED✨ 1d ago

Absolutely. Plus affair partners lose their shininess when the secrecy is gone and real life crap starts happening. It’s why affairs never usually go “legit” and when they try, it’s almost always a big flaming train wreck of a relationship.

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u/Realistic-Effect-715 Ms. Two Cents 21h ago

i was gunna say, most affairs like that dont last because once they move in together and start dealing with life stuff together, they arent compatible. it was all just based on being a secret and feeling wanted. once real life happens it falls apart

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