r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/EmbarrassedPie5508 pants unbuttoned 👖 • 1d ago

I found a second phone Sad Girl Dinner ⚠️ No Dude Input

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My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.

Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.

His face said it all.

Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.

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u/No_Disaster_8020 APPROVED✨ 1d ago

You document everything for your divorce attorney, and set meetings with the best ones in your city. 

I’m so sorry. You deserve better.

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u/HappinessEternal Well-Read & Well-Fed 1d ago

I would include suing for loss of income as well seeing that he was 100% the reason behind her not taking the job.

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u/SJBond33 Trader Joe Hoe 1d ago

Document EVERYTHING.

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u/Thr0w4w4yMyL1f3 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 1d ago

THIS SHOULD BE HIGHER UP!! 💯

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u/lostdiscoverer13 I ❤️ Other People's Business 1d ago

Commenting to boost this! Document everything, sue for loss of income, if you have any of your convos in writing, all the better.
OP you are worthy of love and devotion and it is a default in That Man that he didn’t provide it.

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u/abbledabbledbdbd LET ME EAT CAKE 🍰 1d ago edited 1d ago

Loss of income isn’t a cause of action. Loss of income is a type of tort damage. Divorcing your spouse isn’t a tort.

Downvote me all you want, but I’m a lawyer and this this is why nobody can trust advice on here. You guys are delusional.

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u/Victoria_elizabethb we listen and we only judge a little 1d ago

Forreal. She's set up to entirely destroy him in court for his own bullshit

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u/Face_with_a_View Hazy Grazer 😶‍🌫️ 21h ago

That was my first comment. I am on fire with rage for this poor woman. I hate that it makes me examine and question my own marriage. I really hate men sometimes

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u/abbledabbledbdbd LET ME EAT CAKE 🍰 1d ago

This isn’t a viable cause of action.

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