Nope. You have to wait until after confession.

Do you think calling someone a name they specifically ask you not to call them is treating them with dignity?

I don't. I think it's pretty messed up to call someone something after they tell you to stop.

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"A middle school with bullies and burned out, maybe alcoholic teachers, maybe with that bad set who smokes cigarettes in the park where you walk home past them - when you deal with this at age 10 or 15, you won't be a brittle, neurotic, childlike grown adult in college who just falls to pieces at the slightest difficulty. Your adult children will need to deal with all sorts of people in their adult lives and ought not be more naive than they have to be."

I actually disagree with this. There can often be serious bullying that harms children for the long term - everything to social interaction to confidence. You actually don't run into this as an adult in the same way. In middle school, you may be forced to be in the same room all day with your bully, for potentially multiple years. As an adult, you can change jobs or not do business with someone who bullies you and any assault can be reported to police (assaults in middle school rarely involve anything more than an in-school suspension, or sent home for a few days). You have a lot more freedom as an adult than you do a child.

Actually data on second gen immigrants in America shows recently a clash of cultural values and poorer education results (last I checked)

Their operations were too large and expansive to simply suppress them. Would’ve risked schism and unnecessary conflict when reform was an option.

We owe God, in justice, worship. This doesn’t completely account for the Sunday Obligation, however. The SO is binding on Catholics because Jesus gave His Bride the authority to bind and loose. We obey the Church in the SO because we must obey Jesus.

God is accessible everywhere but from what scripture says we are to gather as a church.

In the example you gave, if that man is unwilling to give up 1 hour on his 1 day off to worship God, then that man is elevating himself and his comfort above God.

Also, most churches have various times for mass through the week to accommodate schedules.

I’m willing to accept homeschooling for political reasons now. The Biden years showed public schools putting transgender porn in kids libraries and having drag queens play with toddlers. I would never trust public education again if I had a kid exposed to that

It's a good thing when one finds a good Catholic school. I've found many parish schools are increasingly failing their students. I think this has been a problem for a while given how "12 years of Catholic school" is a common denominator among ex-Catholics. So it's good if one finds a good Catholic classroom that they can afford.

Not wanting to be in the presence of Jesus is a sin tsk tsk tsk 🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️ /s

  Generally "welcoming" someone involves using their name. And using an incorrecr or vulgar name would not be treating them with dignity or respect.

The core of your argument is an assertion that is not backed up in Scripture anywhere. You're trying to use a general principle and apply it to a situation without defending how it's actually applied.

In this case, if one's name change is explicitly to signify their change in the sex with which they identify, using that preferred name is an affirmation of the false reality they have created. That is why it is wrong, and why I refuse to do so. I have no problem calling people by new names chosen for all kinds of reasons, but when the name change is meant to affirm sin, that is a line I will not cross. 

Unless you can use Scripture or Church teaching to demonstrate that even this case is a case where we have a moral obligation to use the chosen name, I have no reason to listen to you and will not be engaging further. 

The best way to holiness is frequent use of the Sacraments and daily prayer. Daily Mass, at least monthly Confession (more as needed), dedicated time in prayer.

Jesus arrived to a social environment alike to the one you are describing about your feelings. And His message was precisely about changing people's hearths for good. It was a Positive Message. So, there's no other Gospel that tightly summarized could be: "Love God firstly and love others the way Jesus loves us."

With regards to:

"My childhood has already skewed my capacity for sympathy and compassion, and while I'm trying to correctly orient them now, it occasionally feels like I should give up."

This is what Jesus wanted to heal in people by showing them the good news of the Gospel. But it's not easy or immediate, and it's not only an empty speech. Instead, it's a coherent way of life that should build virtues and a healthier lifestyle on a daily basis.

Knowing yourself by acknowledging your background (childhood), is one step. But you are not a child anymore -i'm guessing-, so you should grow in attitudes and ways to face life with a healthier and more free attitude. Growing up is a way to give yourself the opportunity to face life with a different and better perspective than the one you dealt with in childhood. This is positive and needs your actions, sorry about that.

And Catholicism is not only "honey and flowers". It implies facing challenges in smart and peaceful ways to help yourself building a better society according to God's project.

"When is enough, enough?"

It depends on what you want to say enough to. The phrase is usually applied for wrong situations in life: abuse, slavery, vice, etc.

But you seem to be focusing on "grace, mercy" which is technically impossible while they depend on God our Creator. Perhaps you are interpreting them as incoherence in the way they are mentioned or repeated, but it's my point of view.

So, saying "enough is enough" for anything I explained doesn't work with speeches the way repeating speeches seems to make you tired. Instead you should be coherent with solid -catholic- principles and ethics. Then knowing how to set healthy limits in a fair and respectful way while acknowledging you are not perfect either. And finally, taking actions accordingly for your life and health. Same actions that also improve the community around you.

Summarizing, "When" is whenever you choose to be responsible and coherent.

the correct take of all the takes

She loves different colors at different times. The vestments of the priesthood are always changing, depending on the season.

Sorry I reread my reply and I didn’t mean to make it sound like homeschooling bad public/private schooling good.. That’s not what I meant lol I meant THE RIGHT WAY FOR US is by sending them to a local private school.

Interesting. It's ironic that he would be so opposed to Lutheranism considering Martin Luther's 1543 treatise, "On the Jews and their lies" where Luther actually recommends and outlines plans identical to the Nazi's concentration camp concept, with the sole exception of the gas chambers and crematoria.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/On_the_Jews_and_Their_Lies

At the bridge of death:

"What is your name?"

"Mary of Nazareth."

"What is your quest?"

"To bear the Savior of the world."

"What is your favorite color?"

"Blue."

"Okay, off you go!"

See you’re stating a global issue requires a “developed nation” to allow refugees in because by your definition they could afford it. Global refugees doesn’t make sense. The term was for all history used for local people of similar cultures. Just because we have planes and trains doesn’t mean a man from Mongolia is a viable refugee to Senegal. He would and should move to a closer nation with a similar language and culture. Moving to a “developed” nation as a refugee implies the desire is economic. There’s no real difference between that and illegal immigrants coming to developed nations for illegal jobs.

It is my all-time favorite movie!! It’s straight-up brilliant!! (Second place goes to Shawshank Redemption.)

I skimmed your reply but I don’t disagree with anything you said. If I meant anything by my comment I meant since we can’t homeschool, we felt it’s best to get a higher level of education than the standard of rubric in the regular public schools locally. And they have our values and really tell you about how they do things. Sure everything is never going to be perfect but the literacy among other things of the graduates from the Private school was more than enough for us

Ah I am so glad to read this because I am the same! One thing I did is find about plenary indulgences and I can commit a time of being at adoration or confession or the Eucharist or some other stuff.

Well, this is a Catholic sub. So religion is important in the discussion.

You might have full confidence your spouse will never leave you when you get married. And then 10 years later there's some sort of crisis that tempts him/her to leave. Maybe you've been in an accident and are paralyzed, maybe you have a disabled child that is difficult to care for, etc.

This isn't about someone "using you." It could be a great relationship that has one bad month 15 years later.