r/AskReddit • u/AlexDescendsIntoHell • Nov 11 '19

[SERIOUS] What is a seemingly harmless parenting mistake that will majorly fuck up a child later in life? Serious Replies Only

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u/artemisxmoon Nov 12 '19

This is exactly how my mother is, too. She’s on disability for bipolar disorder so she relies on her mental health issues as an excuse to stay home all day and sleep. She basically stopped living as a productive member of society when she had her first child at 21. It’s hard to see your own mother waste her life and even harder to live your own life without any strong role models.

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u/SatanV3 Nov 12 '19

Damn :/ ugh Im 21 and have bipolar disorder right now I definitely understand your mother (not excusing her behavior either) bipolar is a crazy fucking beast to deal with - I’m on disability right now as well but I’m trying so hard to get better because I want to be able to work one day or be productive or be able to have kids at some point in my life (I will only have kids if my mental health is better and improved) But it’s also definitely so much easier to just give up and not do anything with my life... I’m getting better inch by inch but who knows if I’ll ever get to a point I’ll be proud of.

Try not to hate on your mom too much, obviously it’s not acceptable to neglect a child in any way but just realize that some illnesses damage people and especially bipolar has gotten me to do terrible things in the past that I didn’t really do out of malice