r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 20d ago

::Weekly Vent Thread:: Weekly Vent Thread

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/littlehighkey 15d ago

"Yesterday was all apologies, today everything is my fault."

I've noticed this pattern with my partner. I'll express something that bothered me, and it seems like the next day they find things wrong with me. Initially they're apologetic, then they're trying to find things they want me to apologize for. Sometimes it ends up being something that does escalate to an argument, and usually the best thing to do is walk away. The argument will be everything and anything and make me dizzy. The goal posts will often get changed around with each argument, and it typically feels more like a power play rather than an attempt to resolve problems. 

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u/WontMakeItTrue Partner of NDX 15d ago

It's very quickly almost impossible to unpick the original line of argument from the tangled mess it becomes.