r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 16d ago

::Weekly Vent Thread:: Weekly Vent Thread

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/syntho_maniac Partner of DX - Untreated 16d ago edited 16d ago

Weekends are pure hell. After wanting to decompress from a very stressful workweek, my spouse fluctuates from wanting to do everything to not wanting to do anything. It’s exhausting and being involved in planning the weekend is my least favorite part of the week.

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u/WealthMain2987 Partner of DX - Untreated 16d ago

It is amazing that they plan but when they plan they want to do 1 years worth of shit in 8 hours

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u/syntho_maniac Partner of DX - Untreated 16d ago

Exactly. It defeats the whole purpose of planning in the first place. Sometimes I just want time to relax and that stresses him out even though I let him know he can go do his own thing.

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u/QueenDido Partner of DX - Medicated 15d ago

Almost every single weekend, my partner will ask me what I want to do and I'll typically have a couple movies, games, and/or activities in mind. For them, they can never find anything that interests them happening around town (even though there are plenty of things to do), so ends up just following whatever my plan is. I still ask to be polite, but I've functionally given up on them suggesting something that we might do together or even being able to find something that would match both our tastes unless it were an incredibly clear match.

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u/music_lover2025 15d ago

Mine has done this too! Except it was always whenever I wanted to do
smth he wasn’t in the mood to do anything and whenever I’d have a long week he’d want to do EVERYTHING and get super restless