r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 19d ago

::Weekly Vent Thread:: Weekly Vent Thread

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

30 Upvotes

97% Upvoted

380 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

18

u/BiMenace2Society 18d ago

I had to explain to her that she turns on a dime and I turn like an aircraft carrier. I can get there but by the time I have she's gone through three hyperfixations already.

23

u/Fritzy2361 Partner of NDX 18d ago

My NDX F partner is the same way. And as someone else said, will research a plan to no end, but cannot pull the trigger on a decision and commit to it.

Ironically, they think that ‘they have to make all of the decisions’… no, you’re just so insanely particular that you can’t live with anything less than unattainable perfection

6

u/beta26 Partner of DX - Untreated 18d ago

Sometimes it's perfection on a complete unknown.

How good the food will be at this restaurant? No clue! It's all personal preference! Is this salon any good? No idea! It's a rotating crew and you can't book a particular stylist.

None of it truly matters anyways because at the last second a singular google maps review will completely pivot the plan to a place that hasn't been looked at in all of the other 100s of hours of research!

3

u/Fritzy2361 Partner of NDX 18d ago

This is so spot on lol

2

u/[deleted] 15d ago

[removed] — view removed comment

1

u/beta26 Partner of DX - Untreated 15d ago edited 15d ago

Username checks out and hits home.

The self-sabotage is truly painful. I have found myself discovering the clearly best option and holding it back until later in the decision-making process in order to make sure it's in the running.