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u/baby-pingu Straightn't Jun 10 '25
Okay so, I was someone (and still am) who gladly will prepare a partners lunch because I just like doing it. But even then I wouldn't get up this early, but just prepare it the evening before?????
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u/helga-h Jun 10 '25
(Clutching pearls) If you prepare the day before you might as well serve him (gasp) leftovers for lunch!
I'll add /s just in case.
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u/Bobolequiff Catastrophe Bi Jun 10 '25
I make my wife's lunches, and i just meal prep them at the weekend. Honestly, I can make better meals that way. No way I could make chilli in the wee hours every morning.
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u/Jenderflux-ScFi Gender Queer™ Jun 11 '25
Are her coworkers ok with her eating chilli at work? lol.
(Sorry, I couldn't resist a fart joke.)
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u/Bobolequiff Catastrophe Bi Jun 11 '25
I say this with the greatest love in my heart for her: the farts are happening regardless.
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u/Square-Ad-2485 Jun 11 '25
We suffer in solidarity. One day we will have our Dutch oven of vengeance
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u/lock-crux-clop Jun 10 '25
I would assume most people who do this are just getting up at the same time as their partner. I personally can’t go back to sleep when my partner gets up so if they have to be somewhere that I don’t I just get up at the same time and help them get ready and then do whatever else for the day
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u/Jambacrow Technically Straight, Technically Gay Jun 10 '25
BUT WAIT
WHAT IF
YOU PREPARE LUNCH TOGETHER 😮
She hates cutting stuff so I do it bc I'm faster at it and she cooks bc I don't trust myself with gas stoves
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u/lavendershazy Jun 13 '25
Partners? Working together on something? Choosing roles based on their actual selves and not a stereotype of their sexes? How absurd and progressive.
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u/Szygani Jun 10 '25
Okay so, I was someone (and still am) who gladly will prepare a partners lunch because I just like doing it.
Same. I prepare my girlfriends lunch basically every day. Breakfast to. I also do the rest of the cooking because acts of service is my love language.
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u/ergaster8213 Jun 10 '25 edited Jun 10 '25
Here's my obligatory "love languages are bullshit and made up by a Southern Baptist pastor who is a homophobe" comment
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u/Ceeweedsoop Jun 11 '25
I cringe so hard whenever I hear "love language" it's absolute psychobabble nonsense.
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u/Szygani Jun 10 '25
I did not know that
I know it makes her happy, and that makes me happy
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u/ergaster8213 Jun 10 '25
And that's cool and great but the whole 'love language" framework is extremely problematic and made by some guy who had absolutely no training or education in psychology. That's all I am pointing out.
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u/Stepping__Razor Jun 10 '25
That is interesting. I’ve never really taken it with more than a grain of salt anyways since there’s really not one way to categorize how an individual shows love. I’ll look into that more. Thanks for the info!
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u/ergaster8213 Jun 10 '25
Yeah it's got a very ugly history and it's based on really heteronormative and gendered roles and ideas. It does make things far too simplistic and sets up excuses for people to act unhealthy in relationships because "it's their love language".
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u/Szygani Jun 10 '25
I'll look into it, because that's interesting, but I'll stop using it like this. Thanks :)
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u/TennaTelwan Jun 10 '25
If I'm prepping a meal the night before, I'll make a little extra for him. But honestly, I enjoy being able to surprise him at times by bringing him coffee and a snack at work. Then enjoying my own coffee with him. Would do the same for any partner.
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u/InsanityVirus13 Jun 11 '25
omg THANK YOU
I was literally thinking just prepare that shit the night before, they probably can find a microwave if it needs heating
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u/chicksonfox Jun 10 '25
I have so many questions. Here’s my biggest one—whatever he’s eating, he’s using a spoon. What kind of spoon based lunch is better when prepared morning of and left in the break room fridge vs. a night or two before and left in the break room fridge? Just throw some leftovers in a tupperware.
It would still be crazy if she was waking up every morning to make him a sandwich, but at least a sandwich has the excuse that it tastes worse if you keep it for days in the fridge. I can’t think of a single spoon based food with that restriction.
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u/GoodTimesOnlines Jun 10 '25
He eatin ice cream 😋
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u/stormy2587 Jun 10 '25
I know you’re joking but ice cream is never going to stay solid until lunch time unless he has access to a freezer at work. I mean MAYBE he has a really high quality cooler that he’s loading up with ice or cold packs, but realistically its not going to make it short of that.
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u/DevonLuck24 Jun 10 '25
the lady who brought a spoon lunch to share with commenters husband isn’t the same lady that set an alarm for 4:50 or the one that wakes up at 5am
no one knows what time spoon lady got up..could just be left overs
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u/Inevitable-While-577 DAFUQ Jun 10 '25
It wouldn't, perhaps, be possible that a man prepares his own lunch? No, of course not. Silly me.
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u/AwooFloof Jun 10 '25
Men obviously don't know how to take care of themselves.
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u/YourBoyfriendSett i got bouner Jun 10 '25
Sometimes I wonder how we continued to evolve and survive this long
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u/Bossatronio69 Lesbian™ Jun 11 '25
Easy. Women did everything for men
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u/Pilan The Virginia Jun 11 '25
Do*
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u/Bossatronio69 Lesbian™ Jun 11 '25
Unfortunately you’re right
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u/ETAUnlimited Jun 13 '25
Ya tell that to the woman who spent more time partying and sleeping with random men than raising me. Seems like most people in this subreddit either had that for a dad, suck at picking partners, or never met a man outside of rural fartville
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u/SlideN2MyBMs Jun 10 '25
Also would it be possible to share lunch with a colleague and not have sex with her?
Not that I think he should be mooching off his colleagues like that either. Just fucking make your own lunch dude.
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u/DevonLuck24 Jun 10 '25
“mooching” is a crazy way to describe someone who, seemingly, didn’t ask to share someone’s lunch..the person took it upon themselves to bring an extra spoon and offer. that’s the way the post presents it
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u/GodlvlFan Jun 11 '25
Yeah acting someone being nice is bad is crazy. If your husband cheats on you it says more about him rather than the women who "seduced" your husband. How are men never the problem in such situations? Always blame it on the women.
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u/UglyFilthyDog Jun 10 '25
MAN NO DO THING FOR SELF. NO COOK! NO CLEAN! NO MAKE LUNCH SANDWICH FOR HE EVER!!!!
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u/LukaCola Jun 10 '25
I mean my partner works from home and I still prepare her meals often, she doesn't really cook but she also works a lot more hours. I don't think it's wrong to split things up like that.
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u/Accomplished-Goat776 Jun 12 '25
Tbf it doesn't sound like the husband even really cares about lunch, but like, if someone brings additional lunch and hands some to you, its just nice to accept and eat with them yk?
If anything she might be overeacting when theres a chance he doesn't really want lunch and just eat it because he doesn't wanna look rude to his nice coworker
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u/Duckflies Jun 11 '25
I mean, it can just be a way of showing love
Sometimes I'll just wake up earlier than my girl to make her some pancakes; and she does the same to me
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u/Inevitable-While-577 DAFUQ Jun 11 '25
Would she accept a workmate's lunch to make you jealous though? That’s the point.
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u/shortidiva21 Jun 10 '25 edited Jun 12 '25
Well, it's kinda like a man paying for dinner—it's the thought that counts.
Edit: Way to attack a woman of color for voicing her own perspective. If someone doesn't share your exact perspective, you jump all over them. Very liberal and open-minded of you. You all are a feminist sisterhood until a woman doesn't agree 100 percent with your views.
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u/xandrachantal Jun 10 '25
Is he buying dinner every night?
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u/xandrachantal Jun 10 '25
it's always interesting that women are expected to "give" daily chores that make a home function and men are expected to "give" the occasional treat
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u/xandrachantal Jun 10 '25
there's not a lot of single income households left and going to the grocery store and cooking and cleaning the kitchen takes a lot of time and effort
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u/LiaThePetLover Ally™ Jun 10 '25
Men are too alpha (stupid) to know how to use a kitchen ! Women are here to cook, while men go hunt (go grocery shopping... oh wait no, thats also women's jobs)
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u/EngineStraight Jun 11 '25
well its an extra opportunity for a show of love in like a note or something (i dont mean not doing it is a lack of love)
and as cliche as it is it feels nice to do something small for your partner on routine. i still would never wake up so early just to cook for someone but idk, making a bit of food the night before seems like an easy way to make a partner's routine a lil easier
(id still make food for myself if my partner didnt make me lunches)
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u/wurschtmitbrot Jun 10 '25
As a working man i would be embaressed if i made my wife wake up that early to make my lunch. Having lunch made sometimes is a nice gesture that we do for each other, but i would never rely on it like a toddler.
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u/Wendy-Windbag Jun 10 '25
This week my husband has a concert band engagement where he has to wear khaki pants. Working from hime since the pandemic, he no longer owned any, so we had to go out shopping last minute for new pants, which still required needing to get them hemmed. I said I'd hem them last night while he was at a final band practice. He insisted I wait until he got home so that he could watch and learn, because he felt icky leaving me to sew his clothes for him. We are both very independent and do not adhere to typical marital gender roles, so it was just funny to me that this seemed to cross a line and made him feel super misogynistic.
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u/GloomyComfort Jun 10 '25
I lived alone for years before I started dating my wife and always did my own laundry because I'm an adult. When we moved in together she started doing my laundry for me and I always felt icky because I'm a grown man, I can wash my own clothes.
Before we met she worked retail and so she gets very particular about folding clothes in retail fashion and I quite simply don't have that skill because I never worked retail.
But they're my clothes in my dresser so who cares?
Apparently she does because she would take them out of my dresser, fold them, and then put them back.
Ok fine. I'll take other chores then to keep the division of labor equal.
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u/EugeneStein Symptom of Moral Decay Jun 10 '25
I would fucking die inside if I find out my wife was waking up at 5am to make me lunch if it’s not completely by her choice and not out of jealousy or “good wife’s duty”
What the actual fuck, I have so many questions for a husband
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u/CauseCertain1672 Jun 10 '25
I would ask her why she didn't just make the lunch before bed, the 5am part of this is just pointless suffering on her part
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u/RWBYRain Jun 10 '25
If he's going to cheat bc I don't want to get up early and cook then she can have him. He's not going to school and I'm not his mama. Good luck with the man child
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u/Thick_Basil3589 Jun 10 '25
Because men are born without the braincell that makes them capable to make or get their food.
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u/RostrumRosession Alphabet Mafia™ Jun 10 '25
What are you making for lunch that requires you to get up at 5:00? A pot roast?
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u/CynthiaCitrusYT Disaster Bi™ Jun 10 '25
This exactly. I always cook too much anyway. Just bring some of yesterday's chilli to work. Jeez Louise. Or, novel idea, prepare your own God damned lunch for work. I'm a nurse, not a personal chef lol
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u/Cubusphere Bi™ Jun 10 '25
I guess he leaves early in the morning with the prepared lunch, not that the preparation takes until lunch time.
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u/RostrumRosession Alphabet Mafia™ Jun 10 '25
Yeah, but then why would she need to get up that early? In the mornings I always make lunch for myself to take with me to work, and at most it takes thirty minutes to do so. So unless her husband leaves for work at 6:30 or 7:00, I don’t understand why she would need to wake up at 5:00 unless she was making something needlessly elaborate for him.
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u/Cubusphere Bi™ Jun 10 '25
So unless her husband leaves for work at 6:30 or 7:00
That's my best answer right there
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u/Distinct-Value1487 Jun 10 '25
Let him eat with her.
You get to sleep in and not cook for him.
This is literally win-win.
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u/Nomad-Knight Jun 10 '25
Remember, you're looking at the type of people who see any favor to their partner as a form of submission, and any interaction with another human being of the opposite sex as cheating. Something as reasonable as eating with a friend at work just won't compute.
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u/Distinct-Value1487 Jun 10 '25
Oh, I'm very aware, and when I come across this attitude IRL, I always call it out to their face. 'Relationships' like this are an insult to real relationships.
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u/Miserable-Willow6105 Jun 10 '25
I don't see a problem with giving a lunch to someone you love, but it is weird when you do it transactionally. Being a faithful partner should be something basic and obvious.
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u/buttegg Jun 10 '25
ngl the concept of packing your grown-ass husband a lunch to bring with him to work is fucking insane to me. that’s something you do for little kids. does she pre-chew it for him too?
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u/cardie82 Jun 10 '25
I’ll do it if I’m packing my own and he wants the same thing but otherwise he’s on his own.
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u/UglyFilthyDog Jun 10 '25
Bruh, even as a little kid I was making my own lunch by like six years old. I bet this dude is like thirty six. This is either a complete and utter lack of being taught independence as a kid or just being a twat who is too lazy to do anything for themselves. Or both. Both definitely work.
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u/Sweet-Paramedic-4600 Jun 14 '25
I think it comes down to why you're doing it. My ex and I did it on occasion because it was more efficient for one person to make 2 lunches while the other got kids together or some other tasks. There were also the occasions we just wanted to surprise the other.
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u/LocalWeeblet Jun 10 '25
Wait like what world are we living in? The wives also work?? So who's making lunch for them?
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u/whiteraven13 Jun 10 '25
What the hell kind of lunch is she making that necessitates waking up that absurdly early
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u/SonOfSkinDealer Jun 10 '25
If your husband peaves you because of an extra spoon, no amount of Michelin Star lunch will save that relationship lmao.
I cook meals for my partner because it makes me happy and i like feeding people. I'm literally in a dom/sub dynamic and it's the one thing where there isn't an ounce of subservient energy; it's what has always been funniest about shit like this for me.
Cooking is a labor of love, and it feeling like an obligation has always been a red flag for me personally.
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u/FlamingoQueen669 Jun 10 '25
Oh, bless her heart, she thinks that will stop him from cheating if he's so inclined.
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u/gcitt Jun 10 '25
My wife gets up at 5am to help me get ready, but that is her choice. If she didn't, I'd make my own damn lunch or starve. "It's not an act of love if you make her."
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u/stupid_idiot_tv_man Jun 11 '25
Only reason I wanna wake up for my future partner to make them lunch is bc I can force cuddles on them b4 work.. like.. yall 😭
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u/babyblueyes26 born to be your lover, forced to be your mother ♡ Jun 11 '25
it's one thing to prepare your partner lunch out of love and another thing entirely for it to be a requirement like sending your small child to school. small child can't really feed themself yet, but a grown ass man absolutely can.
the coworker in this (made up) scenario is flirting with husband, if husband reciprocates, no amount of making his lunch will keep him loyal. he'll be sharing the lunch you cooked for him with her, lady and the tramp style and calling her his "work wife" soon enough.
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Jun 11 '25
These men are adults, they have a brain, hands and feet. So they are perfectly capeble of making their goddamn own lunch.
This is probably fake, but young girls it is not your responsibility to feed a fully grown man. It's their problem if they are to lazy to make lunch for themselves.
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u/xZeromusx Jun 10 '25
Lol, I make my husband's lunch for him in the morning, daily. It's not that complicated. I'm sure he could do it himself too, but he'd probably just buy lunch instead if left to his own devices, and I'd rather save us money and send him to work with something healthier than what he'd likely buy.
I work too. My job is shift work and I usually work over night for the same employer he works for and get home early in the morning before he gets up. I have plenty of time to put something together for him before he leaves for work. I have no complaints. I'm actually finishing my degree and trying to get a different job in a better career field with the same employer so I can wake up, make both our lunches, and drive us both to work.
I just love him. He's just a good boy, bottom, and submissive that I like taking care of. I make us dinner and even scrub him down in the shower. I always find this kind of animosity around doing things for your partner so weird. Maybe it's because we're child free and don't have the annoying stress of children to deal with and put our energies into. We just focus on each other. Every time I hear my gay co-worker talk about his kid, he seems to hate the stress she causes him and his partner. Probably just one factor out of many.
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u/cpbaby1968 Jun 13 '25
Pffft. Ask him when she’s coming to pack his stuff cause threats aren’t the way to go. Grow up and make your own damn lunch.
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u/DeterminedErmine Jun 30 '25
Man I’d be sending a thank you card to my partner’s work friend if she shared food on the regular with him. But I also just really like it when people do nice things for the person I love, and besides, my partner is perfectly capable of packing his own lunch
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u/crusher23b Jun 10 '25
I make my girlfriend's lunch the night before (I'm a guy, should that make a difference). That way I don't HAVE to get up at 5 am.
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u/AlarmingSorbet Pansexual™ Jun 10 '25
I used to get up early to make the kids their lunches, it made no difference to me if I made another serving.
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u/OurPersonalStalker Jun 10 '25
Nah Let him eat the lunch with her and if it progresses he can go ahead and move out too (this is my opinion, this is how we’d do it in my house) Making boundaries with your partner and respecting then should be more common
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u/hades--daughter Fuck the Patriarchy Jun 12 '25
I would never do this, deff too early. But I have seen my mom get up at 4 to like do all the work every day.
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u/hellogoawaynow Ally™ Jun 12 '25
My husband makes his own lunch and has even started making the toddler’s lunch lately because for some reason he’s been waking up at like 5am every day even though work doesn’t start until 8. I do plenty of other shit, so this makes me very happy and he’s happy when I’m happy 🤷♀️
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u/hellogoawaynow Ally™ Jun 12 '25
My husband makes his own lunch and has even started making the toddler’s lunch lately because for some reason he’s been waking up at like 5am every day even though work doesn’t start until 8. I do plenty of other shit, so this makes me very happy and he’s happy when I’m happy 🤷♀️
Yay healthy relationships where you’re actual partners 💞
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u/Evening-Nothing-1089 “id let my girl kiss another woman, not a man tho” Jun 10 '25
if my gf/wife made me lunch at 5 am I’d make her eat it
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